‘Those who find themselves ridiculous, sit down next to me’
‘Sit Down’ by James
Firstly, for our purposes, the terms counsellor and psychotherapist are interchangeable. Indeed, my governing body, the BACP states that “Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change and/or enhance their wellbeing”.
Forget the blank screen, silent approach beloved of so many TV series, in which it often transpires that the therapist has fallen asleep. Discard too, the directive approach – convincing you that if only you’d think ‘correctly’, then all would magically be well. Carl Rogers, founder of the humanistic approach to therapy, put it nicely:
“In my early professional years, I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way:
How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?”
There’s the crux. You’ve a problem/issue, and you don’t know what to do about it. Together, though, we can make real progress, not through a teacher:pupil dynamic, but via an authentic sense of humans meeting and creating change. We’ll look at defences and blockages that arise both ‘out there’ in your life, and ‘in the room’ between us, we’ll look at family history, we’ll see how it might be impacting on your life now, we’ll delve and explore and work out what you need to ‘bring about effective change and/or enhance your wellbeing’.
At the last count there were over 400 models of talking therapy available throughout the world; I’m trained, and experienced, in six of them, but what truly matters is the two people in the room working together.
I will understand your needs and suggest a programme that suits you.